Recently a friend of ours wanted a traditional South Asian baby shower, so we had a Godh Bharai ceremony for her. Godh Bharai literally means showering and filling the mother-to-be’s lap with abundance, love and prayers. Here are some tips on how to plan a traditional Godh Bharai ceremony.
Theme
Keep the theme traditionally South Asian and desi. You can do a truck art theme or basant or keep it colorful with dupattas and lights.
Wear traditional South Asian clothes and encourage guests to take out their bright shadi clothes too!
Rasms/Activities
The core of the Godh Bharai are the traditional rasms around it. Pick specific rituals you are comfortable with and that will make the mother-to-be feel special!
- Make a special decorated seat for the mother-to-be to sit on.
- Sing traditional songs on dholki (keep copies of lyrics near by for everyone).
- Put jewelry of fresh flowers on the mother-to-be and henna on her hands while everyone sings.
- A traditional Godh Bharai ritual is putting fruit in the lap of the mother-to-be. Elders can do this and bless her with duas.
- Guests can also come up and feed methai to the mother-to-be while blessing her with duas.
- An elder can also lead a dua for the mother-to-be so that everyone can bless her together.
Food
What is a South Asian/Desi ceremony without the talk of food? Keep the food traditional. Women usually like spicy options such as chaat, dahi barey etc.
Here are some menu ideas for a desi afternoon tea party.
Logistics
- Godh Bharai ceremonies are usually women only.
- On the invite you can mention the theme so that guests dress up accordingly.
- Make the mother-to-be feel special and also take care of her comfort by keeping lots of cushions for where she will sit and finishing the event on time.
- For party favours you can give guests sets of traditional bangles.
A Godh Bharai ceremony is lots of fun! Have you ever attended one or plan to arrange it? Hope these tips help!